Amidst the Covid-19 outbreak, the entire planet seems to be in the grip of fear and I truly hope, everyone reading this, is and will be OK.
Recently, I was reminded that there are some things in this world worth being afraid of, that we often might consider no big deal.
I recently watched the Netflix series The Trials of Gabriel Fernandez, which besides making me cry right through it and putting a giant knot in my stomach, had me ponder the female psychopath again and how we still do not take this threat seriously.
If you haven’t watched it yet: a fair warning it is simply heartbreaking and also, this post will contain some spoilers!
Gabriel Fernandez was a sweet 8 year old boy, living in Palmdale, L.A. who was tortured to death by his mother and her boyfriend over a period of eight months. It becomes clear quickly that his birthmother Pearl was the engine behind the abuse and that she is, indeed, a psychopath.
There are text messages which proof that Gabriels’ mother got off on the physical and emotional abuse of her son. Blatant homophobia seems to have played a part in this as well, which would be sad enough on its own.
This woman handcuffed and gagged her own son. Then she locked him up in a tiny cabinet at the foot of her bed and denying him food. Then they would force-feed him cat litter.
She manipulated her boyfriend into helping her, who is of course guilty himself. But it was another example of how female psychopaths seduce and manipulate men into doing their dirty work. Make no mistake, though – they are happy to get their own hands dirty. They just also enjoy the successful manipulation of others.
As victims of abuse, some of hour wounds are invisible. Gabriel had those invisible wounds as well, however, he had others that were more than obvious. And there were people like his teacher reporting those horrendous crimes against him. But the system failed.
Social workers and police would show up at the door, but never actually went inside to check. Do you want to know why? Because the mother told them that Gabriel was fine.
This is the problem, the big danger, the disaster and in this case the unspeakable tragedy.
What also enraged me is that professionals from the filed of psychology didn’t want to believe that this mother is a psychopath. She got an evaluation, while the boyfriend went straight to trial.
There’s hardly anything our society values more than a mother, because it is still consumed by the dogma that there is no such thing as a female psychopaths, that women are to be trusted by default and that every mother loves their child. Unfortunately, this is simply not true. Amongst the favourite victims of a psychopath are very often her own children.
After taking a plea deal, Pearl made a statement in court about how sorry she was that Gabriel was dead, However, she never showed one single sign of remorse, since her arrest. Clearly her lawyers advised her to do this. I was a little relieved to see that no one including the judge bought it.
Female psychopaths are usually good actors, playing into the widespread believe of women always being the good guys. In this case, it became eventually obvious what a monster this woman is.
Unfortunately, it was way too late for Gabriel. Our unwillingness to look at the topic cost an innocent, smart and sweet little boy his life. It is high time for the world to wake up. Are psychopathic women different from their male counterparts? Maybe. Are they less dangerous? No.
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